來源:Society19/BBC英語
七夕即將來臨,你有沒有想要約會的對象呢?如果是第一次和心儀已久的TA約會,為了確保約會過程輕鬆又開心,有些事最好不要做~
You want to give the best impression of yourself on first dates. Follow our guide on 10 things NOT to do on a first date to make sure you’re doing everything right.
第一次約會,你會很想要表現出最好的自己。為了保證不犯錯,以下就是第一次約會時千萬不要做的事。
不要讓緊張控制自己
It’s completely normal to get nervous for a first date, and if you don’t, you’re very lucky.第一次約會異常緊張是很正常的,如果不是這樣的話那麼顯然你非常幸運。
Chances are if you like the person, you’re already going to be nervous for the first date, so try not to let these nerves overcome you when you’re actually on the date, or you won’t have a good time.如果你很喜歡對方的話,你通常會在第一次約會時很緊張。所以不要讓緊張情緒控制你,否則這次約會就可能不會很愉快。
不要談論你的前任
One of the most common mistakes to make on first dates is talking about your exes.第一次約會最常犯的錯誤之一就是談論你的前任。
In short, talking about your ex on a date with someone new is awkward and unnecessary. You also don’t want to give the impression you’re still into your ex by going on about them on the first date, and if you are, then you probably shouldn’t be dating…簡而言之,約會時和新認識的人談論你的前任既尷尬又沒必要。你也不想給人這種印象:他/她在第一次約會時還對前任念念不忘,如果確實如此,那你就不應該來約會……
不要太快進入私密話題
Delving deep into your personal life or personal issues on first dates can be a bit much.第一次約會時就談及你的個人生活或事務可能有點不太妥當。
As the first date should be fun and about getting to know each other on a casual level. If you feel comfortable around them great, but don’t give away too much too soon to someone you’ve just met.第一次約會應該是充滿樂趣笑聲,雙方增進一下初步的相互了解。如果你們相處的很愉快,那很好,但對於剛認識不久的人,不要步調太快太急。
不要過早的戀戀不舍
If you like them after the first date, then that’s great! However, you don’t want to get attached too soon, just in case they’re not into you.如果頭一次約會後你喜歡對方,那很好!但不要表現得太戀戀不舍,也許對方對你並不是很感興趣呢。
Try and wait a couple of days after the date to text them, unless they say otherwise. You want to seem interested, just not overly keen, because this can be off-putting and will just be awkward for you if the feeling isn’t mutual.如果對方沒什麼表示,那就試著等幾天再給對方發信息。表現得感興趣但也別過於熱切,這樣的話如果發現對方對你沒什麼感覺也不至於尷尬。
付帳時別小氣
There’s typically a lot of speculation on first dates about who should pay the bill, but whoever you’re dating, don’t expect them to foot the bill. It’s rude and presumptuous. If they offer to pay then great, but don’t expect it, get your wallet out and prepare to pay for your own meal!第一次約會時,該誰付帳通常有很多說法,但不管你和誰約會,都別指望對方付帳,因為那樣會顯得你很沒有風度。如果對方表示要付帳,那也不錯,但不要對此有什麼期待。
注意要吃什麼
If you’re eating out for your first date, you might want to consider watching what you eat. Pasta, for example, can be messy and you don’t want to end up spilling it down your new dress/suit you bought specifically for the date!如果選擇在外面吃飯,注意你的選擇。舉個例子,披薩就不是什麼好選項,可能你也不想把為約會而精心選購的衣服弄髒吧。
注意禮儀風度
Always be polite, you want to give the best first impression of yourself possible for your first date, so think please and thank you, holding doors open and eat with your mouth shut.要記住隨時保持禮貌。第一次約會時,你總希望能給對方一個好印象吧。所以千萬記住為對方開門,吃東西時要閉上嘴。
別喝太多酒
Getting too drunk on a first date is an easy mistake to make, especially if you’re having a great time.第一次約會時喝高是很容易犯的錯,特別是當你們挺合得來的時候。
The last thing you want is to get so drunk you don’t remember the date, or this stranger has to become responsible for looking after you! Again, it creates a bad first impression!但你也不想喝的太多而把這次約會忘得差不多吧,或者對方頭一次見面還得負責照顧你!再說一次,這會給對方一個很不好的印象!
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These tips are great advice for first dates, however, everyone has different opinions when it comes to dating about what’s right and wrong. 這些建議對第一次約會來說是很有用的,但真的去約會時每個人都有著自己的想法和判斷。
Wherever you end up on your first date or whoever you’re dating, just remember to be safe, have fun and always be yourself!無論在什麼地方或和誰第一次約會,記住一定要保證安全、讓自己開心以及不失自我!